Do Women Care More About Their Wedding Day Than Their Actual Marriage?

I know that I'm probably going to upset a few bride to be's but this is something that needs to be acknowledged.I have seen shows like Bridezilla and My Friggin Wedding more times then I care to admit. At first they were entertaining to me but now it's just really saddening. One thing that I have noticed is that the women seem to care more about their wedding day then their actual soon to be husband. I'm not defending the men on these shows because some of them could use a course on gentleman behavior. I feel that the women on these shows make love look so artificial and the sad thing is, many women are like this.

I opted to not have a wedding but not for fear of becoming a bridezilla, it was because I just couldn't wait to spend the rest of my life with my now husband. I would be lying if I said that I have never fantasized about being in a beautiful dress and having a lavish reception, but I never once fantasized about putting my wedding before my fiance's feelings or hurting others to get what I want. Would it have been nice to have a gorgeous wedding? Yes. Do I regret not having a wedding? Absolutely not. I wouldn't have changed my marriage day for anything in the world. I still married the man of my dreams and I had the best honeymoon ever.

I want to say that these bridal reality shows are staged like most other reality shows are, but I have seen too many personal friends and family members turn into bride divas. It seemed that most of the time the bride to be wasn't really in love with her husband. It seemed the bride was more in love with the idea of being a star for a day then the fact that she was gonna spend the rest of her life with the man she loves. I have also seen couples who were not right for each other get married because the woman pressured the man into marriage. Why would a woman want to marry a man who felt obligated to marry her? That's not a healthy start to a good marriage. I'm not saying a woman who wants a gorgeous wedding doesn't love her partner because that would be ignorant of me, but when a woman wont even acknowledge that it's the groom's wedding too and wont let him be involved, then that's an issue.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a dream wedding. It's one of the most important days of your life and it should be special. While planning your special day, please remember the whole reason your getting married. You gave your heart to this man. This man loves you and made the decision to spend the rest of his life with you. Don't repay him by making the day about only you because it's about both of you. Try to remember that your friends and family love you and are gonna be there to celebrate your special day so don't chew their heads off if something doesn't go as planned (especially if your parents are the ones paying for the event). Remember that perfection doesn't exist so quit trying to make everything perfect.

I want to say that every woman deserves her fairy tale wedding. It is true that men as a whole could care less about planning the event. At the same time, they want to be reassured that the most important part of the wedding is the fact that your marrying them. If you care more about the dress, the flowers, the cake, the guests, or anything else besides the whole reason your getting married in the first place, then your the woman who cares more about the wedding then your actual marriage. If you believe the best part of the wedding is pledging your life to the man you chose and all the other things are just bonuses, then your man is blessed to have you. Please make sure your planning a wedding for the right reasons. You don't want have a dream wedding only to have a divorce later.